A couple of months ago I had a row with someone close. It fizzled out but the pot was kept simmering with resentments.
On my birthday I offered an olive branch. We were having a nice chat on the phone and I thought it a good idea. It wasn't an apology, I didn't feel that it should be me giving one. Neither was it a request for an apology, I know the other party will not.
It was, though, a peace offering. A way of saying, 'OK, let's just agree to differ'. After all, you cannot agree on everything, no matter how understanding and compatible you may be.
The olive branch? It was thrown back in my face.
It won't get offered again.
Sad really. I'm one of those who will fly off and let rip. Once done though, I forgive and forget very easily. I accept people for who they are and what they believe and do. I do not judge. That does have to be returned though.
Too many people are judgemental, they see things as black and white, and if a disagreement carries on into a full blown argument then they will sometimes hold grudges. It all boils down to an inability to accept that the other person has views and opinions every bit as valid as your own.
Some things can be seen in terms of black and white; but mostly our world, our world of opinions, comes in varying shades of grey where right to one person is wrong to another, where white to one is black to another. More likely to be just a murky shade of grey.